surrenders to you completely. For more about that, see David Shade's Manual .
Getting Things Started
There is nothing more natural than a man and a woman getting together. It’s what we were meant to do.
All social interaction between a man and a woman is sexual at the very core. It is the first criteria each judges the other on.
The man is the masculine compliment to her femininity. The woman is the feminine compliment to his masculinity.
Women first want to be appreciated for those things that can only be appreciated after getting to know her well, such as her character, her integrity, etc.
Only after getting to know her well does she want to be appreciated for those things that are appreciated upon first inspection, such as her breasts, her ass, etc.
So when you first meet a woman, appreciate her for her personality, but be comfortable with the fact that when she is close to you she wants to be appreciated for the sexual creature that she is.
You must disassociate her looks. Do not give her undue credit for something that has nothing to do with who she is as a person. A man who idolizes a woman for her looks is no different than a woman who idolizes a man for his money.
Respect the fact that she wants to be treated with respect in the living room, and respect the fact that she wants to be treated like the sexual creature that she loves to be in the bedroom.
It is not about outcome. It is about complimenting and completing. It is about appreciating the sexual potential in a woman and bringing that out in her.
You are a sexual threat, in that she knows that you can make her feel powerful feelings and you can make her think powerful thoughts.
Lubricate the slide to sex
The lubricant on the slide to sex is romance and emotional intimacy.
Too many men are afraid of romance. That is because they are not comfortable with their own sexuality and the part they play in it.
Too many men are afraid of intimacy. This can be due to one of many reasons. Some are afraid that their real self will show through because they are not comfortable with themselves. Some are afraid of closeness. Some are afraid of appearing weak. But it is a manly masculine thing to do that calls upon strength.
Make her feel sexy
For her to feel sexy with you, she must feel like a woman. That means that you must be a MAN.
You must be comfortable with yourself. That means lack of self doubt. That means complete self assuredness.
Be comfortable with her. Be comfortable with that fact that she is a highly sexual being.
Treat her like a lady, while you have confidence that the natural woman in her will come to life.
Be chivalrous, gentlemanly, manly, protective. Play the MAN’s role.
When comfort has been established, admire her beauty.
When intimacy has been established, show her that she excites you.
And, always, always abide by the “It just happened” clause. She should always be able to later justify it by saying “It just happened.”
Here is a question from one reader with a concern. A lot of guys probably wish they had his problem:
This is a one night stand question David, so I know it’s not completely what you do, never the less,
A couple of nights ago, I seduced a young lady. First I jumped into the Jacuzzi naked, she followed my lead. We made out. Later we go off to the bed and start kissing some more. Things escalate and I
eventually go for the deep spot. And it is at this point that she says twice: fuck me fuck me. So that happened and it was quick and basically that was that.
My question, or concern really, was that it really wasn’t all that appealing to me. Personally I would have rather taken it slow and let it slowly build to the point of climax. Then again it was a one night stand. So any suggestions would be much appreciated.
One night stands are not what I specialize in. Sure, I’ve done them, we all have, especially in our early 20s. But I find them to be shallow and empty, eventually, as I will discuss
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